Illustration by Meghann Stephenson , follow her on Instagram meghannfinley. The Psychology of Adult Female Sleepovers. By Haley Nahman. By Tess Garcia. By Team Repeller. If you choose to spend regular alone time with one, or many, of your male friends, and not welcome your husband to be involved, you're asking for trouble.
Marriage necessarily requires both sexual and emotional fidelity. You may have heard the stone-age allusions to a husband and wife as being "joined together", or your mate being referred to as 'your other half", or "the two shall be as one". If your mate isn't included, or invited along into your circle of friends, then trust will eventually erode. Marriages are built on trust, but it must be maintained. Just reference the questions relating to this issue on this site alone.
Sure medieval thinkers uniformly believed the world was flat, but they also knew that should a man stick his hand in a fire he'd get burned. Some things don't change as they're part of the grand design, and sexual tension between men and women is one of them. Try as you may to have it your way you'd might as well pee in the wind always hoping for a different result.
I too take the 3 magic words very seriously. Though in recent months I've realised that there is more than one form of love. I would never say it unless I meant it, even to my mother, which is sad I guess. However now I've realised after recent events that it is important that the people you care about know it, whether they be romantic or platonic. I love certain friends of mine who are guys and girls and I let them know about it. We are clear that it's platonic and that is all that matters.
I have male friend who went through some bad things in his life and decided that he needed to tell the people he cares about how he feels.
I also love all my friends as I have few and cherish the ones I do have. We exchange I love you's when parting but have an absolutely platonic relationship in all other aspects. We have never even joked about having a relationship or anything beyond friendship. I don't understand why it is any different than telling my female friends I love you.
My boyfriend has broken up with me over this. Share Facebook. Is it ok for male and female friends to say "I love you" to each other? Add Opinion. The problem with mix gender platonic relationships is that they often blur the lines of what is friendship and what is romantic. For a lot, if not most, there are just some things you do and say that are only for your lover.
Kissing on the lips, certain touches and hugs, sex, and some expressions of love. Saying "I love you" is one of those. Perhaps they may be the fault of the English language, but "love" does have all sorts of meanings. Like you said, you love your friends. It's not unusual. People love their families.
Their pets. Their cars. But the meaning can be misinterpreted if said to another male. And I can see where your ex is coming from. As I'm sure you would feel insecure if he said it to a female friend. Don't lie, you would. It's human nature. We all would. All these actions that blur that line are fine when you're single. Half the time they're covering up for deeper feelings anyways, whether one-sided or not.
But once you enter a serious relationship, yes, compromises and changes do have to be made. It's the commitment to the relationship. I think some people fail to see that when you're in a relationship you're not single, so you can't act like you are. You are now sharing your life with someone and both people need to readjust their lives. Is this still revelant?
Sometimes people who do go against this norm.. Especially with guys Anyways, I hope this helps, personally, I think guyfriends and female friends are only temporary. Not all feelings lead to long-term, serious relationships.
Some individuals view their best friends as soulmates - not romantically, but just someone they feel a deep, lifelong connection with. If you fall in love with or come to love your friend in a platonic way, you might experience a deep trust, care, and affinity for them, rather than in a romantic way or any way that would call for sex friendships.
Friends fall in love with each other all the time for entirely normal reasons. In fact, when friends fall for one another, there might never be a romantic suggestion anyway. People can even fall in love with multiple best friends. If you think you need help navigating those feelings, never be afraid to seek the guidance of a professional counselor. Friends can fall in love without needing a romantic outcome or sex friendships.
Some best friends fall in love and begin a romantic relationship, but others choose to maintain a platonic relationship instead. Falling in love does not happen every day, and noticing that connection with another person is special. If you know or suspect that the other person is also falling in love, you might be that much more excited and confused about the normality of two friends falling in love or beginning to fall in love.
Seeing a relationship shift from one way to another can be both interesting and intimidating. The beauty of love is that each relationship is unique to itself. Other friends fall for each other and choose to see what happens.
Is he unusually standoffish and awkward? Friends fall in love and sometimes forget how to act around one another. Some friends fall for each other and act oddly until they know what to do about their feelings. If you notice your guy friend behaving differently, giving you more attention than normal or less , he might be falling in love. In some cases, he might hope for sex friendships or something a bit less platonic, or he may not be interested in pursuing a relationship despite his feelings.
Does that person get jealous when you speak about other potential romantic partners? Falling in love with a friend can be potentially easier to identify because you know the person better. If you think your friend is falling in love because of a change in their usual behaviors, you might be onto something. Friends fall in love without notice, sometimes. Spending more and more quality time together can be grounds to fall in love, especially depending on your love languages.
Why do I love my best friend? Can best friends fall in love? How do you know if your best friend loves you more than a friend? Is it better to marry your best friend? Can girl best friends fall in love? How do I tell my best friend I love her? Is it okay to say "I love you" to a friend? Is it common for friends to fall in love? Falling in love with a friend does not happen for everyone, but it definitely can happen. What do you do when you fall in love with your best friend?
Can platonic friends fall in love? Can two best friends fall in love? Do what is best for you and your friends, but know that two best friends can fall in love. But is it just luck? Is it better to wait to see if the feeling endures, or should you take a leap of faith? Because you do kind of just know. Sasha met Ezra as an undergrad at NYU. I remember where the windows in the room were and who was sitting next to me.
And as he spoke, my peripheral vision diminished around him, and I just thought, I must have him in my life. It was physiological. I was burdened by it, because I was stuck with this enormous need. She knew it was love. And that love never really went away, for the next 25 years.
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